SMALL WAYS OF MAKING ONE'S LIFE BETTER

NEVER LOOK DOWN UPON ANYBODY

REASON SOME PEOPLE DON'T SOCIALIZE MUCH

RETREATS FOR MIND MANAGEMENT

DIFFERENCE BETWEEN OPTIMIST AND PESSIMIST

DO POSITIVE VALUES HAVE A PRICE IN NEGATIVE TERMS?

When I came across this paradoxical quote, it took me by surprise. When I read it again, I felt though we may never think that a positive value may have a price in negative terms, there are instances when you can actually connect this quote by Pablo Picasso to real life situations. 

What is created to serve, or protect can be used to destroy. Arms and guns in the hands of soldiers are for killing the enemy, protecting the nation. The same arms and guns in the hands of terrorists kill innocent people. We are prescribed medicines when we fall ill, but a lot of medicines have side effects!  While fire can be used for cooking, it can also burn a house down. Take food for instance, there is so much of delicious food around us, made so creatively that's delightful to see and taste. When food is consumed mindfully, it nourishes the body and gives us energy. If food is constantly consumed to offer comfort during stress or if you overeat or make unhealthy food choices, food can make the body ill with disease and the doctor tells you to stay away from those foods you once devoured. People in power can use their power to accomplish great things, inspire people and bring out the best in or misuse their power and cause suffering. Maybe there were times when you trusted and you were betrayed or let down by someone you believed in. When you did good,  or meant well, put in some great effort, or great faith, you went out of your way to accomplish something, but something negative happened or you got a negative response, or lead to unimaginable chaos, and you wonder why,  what went wrong, why did it go wrong. 

Personally, I don't believe this goes for every positive value. Not everything of positive value has a price in negative terms. In life, things can go right and things can go wrong no matter how good your intent or initiative is. Life has it's seasons. It's important to realize that we have control over ourselves, our thoughts, our choices but there is a limit to how much we can control people, events, outcomes, reactions from others, within our sphere of influence. Through every experience, we learn about life, about ourselves, it offers opportunities to grow which is necessary for our journeys.  I also believe, every positive value counts and will lead to positive returns if not instantaneously, sometime in the future. Keep doing good and  do not be afraid of doing what you feel is right, without expecting instant results. 

EXCUSES

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SPREAD LOVE EVERYWHERE YOU GO

UNSOLICITED ADVICE

Not that I wasn't aware of the perils of offering unsolicited advice, I tend to believe, the sometimes unsolicited advice I offer, out of my genuine concern for people I care for, will be received in a good way and will help them. Today I learnt a big lesson. I must refrain from offering any more unsolicited advice. I thought I was offering a smart suggestion, when I gave a person I consider very dear,  a certain advice. And it wasn't very well received at all. Gosh,  I realized at once, that no matter how much we care for those around us, we need to exercise restraint from offering people advice, unless asked for. People share their joy or woes because they consider you  important enough to share them with. Most of the time, they don't need any advice. They just want you to be a good listener and let them know you are there for them. An unsolicited advice is like not believing or trusting their ability to do what's best for them. Sometimes unsolicited advice can be perceived by recipient as critical, harsh or unloving and can play like bad music somewhere in the back of their mind. We must also remember, no matter how much we think we 'know', everyone does not have the same degree of emotional framework.  We shouldn't look at people as a mirror image of us where we can expect them to think and feel the way we do. Most people know what's best for them really and they need to make their journey trusting their decisions. 

We have no right to permit ourselves to give advice and suggestions unless asked for, or if you know the great difference between when to offer an opinion or advice and when not to.

DO YOU RUN THE DAY?

HAPPY VALENTINE'S DAY

Once you understand love, you don’t need a reward for your kindness or compassion just like you don’t need a reward for breathing.” - Vironika Tugaleva

Wishing all my readers a happy Valentine's Day. May your life always be filled with abundant love. 

Here are some nice quotes I came across:

* Be close to that person who makes you happy but be closer to that person who  can't be happy without you.

* Love multiplies when reciprocated.

* Spread love everywhere you go. Let on one ever come to you without leaving happier.

* The most memorable people in your life will be the ones who loved you when you weren't very lovable.

* Love doesn't make the world go round. Love is what makes the ride worthwhile.

* Don't chose the one who is beautiful. Choose the one who makes your world beautiful.

* To the world you may be one person, but to one person, you may be the world.

* You come to love not by finding the perfect person, but by seeing an imperfect person perfect.

* Life isn't finding someone to live with. It's finding someone you can't live without.

* Being a parent is one of the hardest things you'll ever do but in exchange it teaches you the meaning of unconditional love.

INTROSPECTION : THOUGHTLESS AND HEARTLESS PEOPLE

Even after reading so many articles by psychologists, I still wondered what really makes some people speak thoughtlessly and behave heartless until I stumbled upon this interesting quote.....lol. 

RELATIONSHIPS THAT ARE TAKEN FOR GRANTED

ART OF LOVING PEOPLE

MOST DELIGHTFUL SURPRISE IN LIFE

SAD TRUTH IN LIFE

WHAT IS HAPPINESS?

JEALOUSY - DON'T ENTERTAIN IT

Be happy for others' success. Don't compare your life with others. Everyone has their own journey to travel and you never know the battles people fight in their real life compared to the reel life you see on the outside. And they've probably worked hard and gone through tough times to reach where they are or attain what they have. Even if you do compare, you might wish to imbibe the positives from their life, which may help you make wise choices, help you grow or make you a better person. Learn from the good in people's lives.

When a person becomes jealous, it shows his or her own insecurity. When we count our own blessings and our inner resources and work on building our life with faith and confidence, there is no room for jealousy. 

WHY DO PEOPLE STRUGGLE WITH INSECURITY?

THE POWER OF LOVE