Friday, 20 May 2011


It's natural human trait to desire for everything to want to go our way and in that expectation, knowingly or unknowingly, trying to control our lives and the lives of  others (especially the ones close to us) takes a huge toll on our heart, minds and life. 

We want people to respond to us the way we want. We have expectations about how things should be, how someone should  be with us.  We can get into thinking our views are always right, or that there is only one way  which is our way.  Yes we do have power over certain situations and circumstances, but we must realize and accept the fact that  we cannot control all external circumstances. Life has its way.  Death, sickness, difficult relationships, divorce, economic meltdowns, war, climate changes, unemployment, challenging personality traits of those around us are an inevitable part of life.  I don't mean to sound negative, but one has to strike a balance, find the reslience and move forward during trying times. A person once said, 'I realized that when I let go of control, I actually felt more in control'. Why? because she  let go of trying hard to control every circumstance and people around her, and began to enjoy peace and tranquility.

Trying to have control over everything external takes tremendous effort and energy. It can be emotionally exhausting, creating so much unhappiness when we are trying so hard to control everything.  Stress is  bad for our physical and emotional health. I'ts important to stay present and grounded. To change the things we can and to accept the things we cannot change and to know the difference will help us appreciate life and enjoy life....and we come to realize we don't  need to control everything and everyone!  The things we can have control are our own attitudes, our reactions to situations and the choices and decisions we choose to make.

It’s important to go with the flow of life, let go of control and enjoy peace.  You are not only happier, but you will be healthier as well.

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